11 Tips On How To Build Your Child’s Self-Confidence

Tuesday, September 1, 2020, 10:36

Self-confidence is an important part of healthy child development. It helps children cope with mistakes, try again even when they fail for the first time, which makes them recognise and value their own capabilities and strengths. Self-confidence helps children to deal with setbacks, peer pressure and other challenges that they face in their life [1].

Kids with a healthy sense of self-confidence feel good about themselves and kids who lack confidence feel unsure of themselves. Studies have shown that children who have low self-esteem have a higher risk of suffering from anxiety and depression [2], [3].

When children are confident of themselves, they feel proud of what they do, they feel positive and believe in themselves. Every child is different and while some kids build self-confidence easily some require a little help from their parents to build their self-confidence.

Here are some tips on how parents can build their child's self-confidence so that the child can deal with the challenges that they face.

1. Talk positively

Failures can bring in negative feelings which can cause a child to doubt about their self-worth and this can lower their confidence. So, it is important that parents should teach their child acceptance and make them understand that failures are a part of life and that they can use this experience to learn and grow and do better the next time. Parents should teach their children positive affirmations as it can help change their mindset [4].

2. Show unconditional love

Self-confidence comes from feeling loved and secure. Showing unconditional love to your child will give them a feeling of warmth, security and belonging that will make them feel good about themselves. Love your child in spite of them making mistakes or poor decisions and avoid criticising them [5].

3. Be a good role model

Kids are constantly noticing how their parents are living their lives and how they deal with failure and gain success. When parents are doing their tasks with utmost confidence and taking pride in a job that they did well, children see it and this teaches them to do the same too [6].

4. Praise their efforts

Praise your child's efforts, progress and attitude in whatever they do, rather than focusing on praising only on the good outcome. For example, if your child is learning a new musical instrument or working on a project, appreciate them. Praise your kids for putting the effort into things as this will give them encouragement and help build their self-confidence [7].

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5. Encourage them to learn new things

Parents should encourage their kids to pursue new things be it joining a dance class or being a part of the football team in school. Tell them that they are courageous in trying new things and that they can excel at it. This will help build your child's confidence in learning new things.

6. Don’t compare your children with others

Avoid comparing your children with their peers as this will increase their stress levels. Children want to please their parents at all times and when they aren't able to do so, this can lower your child's confidence and start believing that everybody is better than they are.

7. Do not criticise their performance

Criticising your child's efforts will discourage them from giving it a try again. Give suggestions and motivate them on how they can do it better next time. When kids get criticised for their mistakes, it harms their self-confidence. And also if your kid is scared to fail because they worry you will get angry, this can prevent him from trying it out again. So avoid harsh criticism and speak to your child in a pleasant way [8].

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8. Give your child responsibility

Give your child some responsibilities, which are appropriate for their age, for example give them some household chores as it will provide a sense of accomplishment. Appreciate and praise their efforts in the chores that they are doing well and tell them that they will get better with each passing day. This can go a long way in building confidence and resilience.

9. Pay attention on their strengths

Pay attention to what your kids enjoy doing and ensure that they are able to do it. Focus on their strengths when they love doing something because this will make them feel good about themselves and gain confidence in themselves and their abilities.

10. Allow your child to fail

It is natural that parents want to protect their child from failure, but going through trial and error will help your kids to learn and grow. If kids have failed in something, motivate them to give a greater effort the next time. Teach them to make every setback an opportunity for growth and improvement.

11. Set goals

Setting and achieving realistic goals, whether small or big can make them feel strong and capable. Parents should help their kids turn their dreams into goals by encouraging them to write down the things they would like to accomplish and help them to learn the skills they require in order to achieve their goals.

Common FAQs

Q. What causes low self esteem in a child?

A. Unhappy during childhood due to harsh criticism by parents or teachers, poor academic performance and stressful life events are some of the causes of low self-esteem in children.

Q. What are the signs of low self esteem in a child?

A. Having a negative image of themselves, lacking confidence, feeling lonely and isolated and avoiding trying new things are some signs of low self-esteem.

Q. How can I make my child more positive?

A. Encourage your child and recognise their accomplishments, be a role model, allow your children to be surrounded by positive people and teach morals and values to them.