A Paralyzed Life Need Not Be A Stale Journey

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'Alice looked at her grandfather lying sick on his bed. It had been more than a month now, she hardly saw him playing or smiling at her. Whenever she pounced on the bed to get cuddled, one or the other member of the family picked her away and asked her to play out with her friends. When out for play she sat with her dear friend for a serious conversation, 'Is he angry with me because, I keep asking him for chocolates and toys? Why doesn't he play with me anymore? Should I say sorry... but for what?" The two friends could not come to any conclusion. Alice finally decided to ask him all her queries when nobody was around to attend him.

“Grandpa, are you angry with me? Do you know, it has been more than a month, you even passed that smile beneath your gray mustache? Why do you keep sleeping whole day long? Don't you get bored?" Before he could realize what was happening she was trying to pull him out of the bed with all her strength. He said, “You cant pull me out of my bed sweetheart, I'm glued here for life. And yes I am angry rather I am jealous when I see you walk carefree, smile innocently and play with great gusto.... Why cant I have my childhood back again? Why am I so helpless?"

Alice, “Oh is that all you are worried about then I will ask mom to tie me to bed near you for life because I want my old Grandpa back?" How he wished he could move his paralyzed arms to hug her tight. But when he couldn't move an inch he cried aloud to heavens to breath his last.'

Paralyzed life, is always characterized as an end of life. The pain of helplessness and a feeling of being a burden to the family can shudder any strong heart. But just a determination to live with a smile till the last breath can change several lives. A step to think 'I can' will make them fly with their arms wide open on the cloudy sky of laughter and peace. Its just the will to say, “this is not the end, I am still blessed to taste the last pie of life." However this beautiful bounty of life cannot be attained with just the disabled man. The near and dear ones should also stand with a strong arm of support and encouragement.

Here are some things that you can do to keep the life on the helpless bed fascinating for more adventures and learning.

Tell stories: Grandchildren love to hear stories. Share your fascinating past with the little hearts. You can even read aloud story books that would keep them enchanted for life. Spin a dreamworld for your grandkids.

Read Books : Read inspirational or religious books. Keep your mind occupied. Do not loose hope as it is the only bridge that can make you walk the path of life for more distance.

Create a blog: If you have access to Internet at home create blogs or join groups or communities that can give moral support and inspiration to dream big.

Listen to music : Listen to soft and slow music.

Play board games : If you are completely bed ridden it is just impossible to move your body. However there are no restriction to give instruction while playing a game. Watch members of the family playing board games and get yourself involved. You can ask a person to play as your dummy while you give the play commands.

Call friends to chat : Call friends at home to chat. Talk about your cherished treasures of life and everything that can lessen the burden of grief on your back.

Stroll on wheelchair : Stroll on wheelchair to the nearby garden or the riverside. Make sure the place is tranquil enough to answer all your unanswered questions of life

For the people near the deathbed :
Always remember, listening is a unique and wonderful gift you can give to someone who may be feeling scared and alone. Listen to their stories even if they are a bit exaggerated. Do not answer back with a rude note. Make them feel that you are a part of his/her suffering. Sense of humour, at the time of distress may sound weird but it can still play its charm to wipe the hidden fears. So go re mold the paralyzed life of your dear ones.