How Violence Curbs Relationship

By Vinutha S

Being violent is the cruelest thing in any relationship. Especially when it comes to marriage, you should never be violent towards your partner. You might show all the anger and frustration on your partner but think, do they really deserve that? Anger slows down in a few seconds, but those hurting words and violent actions will stay in their hearts forever.

Being violent towards your partner is harmful, it creates hatred towards you. You will lose their respect and they might never be the same loving and caring people. Violence not only breaks the relationship between a husband and wife, it also affects the families. Marriage is a beautiful bonding which connects two people and their whole family. So when there is a rift between the couples, it directly affects every person in the family.

How Violence Curbs Relationship

The most crucial impact of being violent reflects on children. Children always learn from their parents, so when you behave violently in front of them, it affects them. There are chances that they may hate you for life or they may adapt this behaviour which spoils their future.

Here are some of the ways in which violence can curb a relationship:

Carrying official tensions back home:
When in a relationship you must learn to manage things. Never combine your personal and official tensions. Once you leave from your workplace, leave back all the official stress and strains. Come back home with a peaceful mind. If you fail to do so, you will be at the stake of losing your relationship. Do not show your official grudge on your partner.

Underestimating your partners:
Everything starts with you. It is up to you to decide on your life. But at the same time you must also think about your partner who is a part of your life. You must always respect your partner in private as well as public, especially when you are with your relatives. Never underestimate your partners in any situations. You must stand for them and by them. The minute you underestimate them you will lose their respect and love.

Misunderstandings:
This can lead to violence and can curb a relationship. It is a good thing to be desperate about posing your point of view, but not at the cost of violence. When you have something to convey, there are many peaceful ways in which you can state your point. You need to speak out and let your partner talk as well. Respect each others' opinion, never assume things and never take them for granted. It is not necessary to always abide by your decisions. At the same time it doesn't mean that they are against you. This is where difference of opinion occurs. You must handle situations peacefully. Violence is unnecessary and inhuman as they curb and kill your relationship.

Being ignorant:
Ignorance is also a reason for a break up in a relationship. When you ignore the basic necessity of your partner, they start to feel avoided and lonely. When this reflects on you, you tend to be raged and be a victim of violence. Its basically a cycle, what goes around comes around. So never ignore the love and care showered by your partners.

Little violence today can easily turn into domestic violence and abuse. There will no more be any respect towards each other. It is always advisable to talk out things immediately to avoid misunderstandings followed by fights. Every relationship goes through ups and downs, so it is better to deal with them in peace and try to give each other some space. Never let the fights and arguments last longer. It is always better to share all your joys and sorrows along with your partner in order to avoid any tensions and troubles in your relationship.

Story first published: Thursday, October 3, 2013, 19:46 [IST]
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