Simple Tips To Deal With His Ex

Is your guy's past haunting you all the time? You may have had a whole lot of hook ups in your past. But to deal with your guy's ex can become really annoying. His ex girlfriend doesn't necessarily threaten your relationship. But at one point of time, the insecurity is bound to creep in.

So, if his ex is in his past then there must be a good reason for it. So, the best way to deal with his ex is to trust your partner and not freak out at his ex's presence in your life. So, try to chill out a bit and deal with things calmly. Another woman hovering over your love life can be endangering. But if you make use of your brain at the right times then his ex will be out of the picture in no time.

Simple Tips To Deal With His Ex

If you are at a loss of strategies to deal with the intruder in your love life then here we have a solution for you. Check out these simple tips to deal with his ex and get her out of the scene once and for all:

Play Nice

Don't be offensive. You like it or not, your guy once loved this girl and so he will defend her. When he starts defending her, he will remember the good times spent with her. So, there are chances that you may re-kindle the spark in him for his ex by being offensive. So, be nice to her and talk good things about her to your partner.

Jealousy Doesn't Help

So, you go green with jealousy every time he mentions her. Try to be reasonable. He may have had feelings for her in the past. But now he is with you and there must have been a good reason for him to choose you against her. So, stop being jealous and spoiling your relationship over it.

Be Informed

Keep yourself informed about their past. Know how she was with him? What kind of bond they shared? This will tell you a lot as to what to expect from your relationship. You will realize what mistakes you should avoid in the relationship. Learn from the mistakes of his ex and use it to your advantage.

Talk

Don't presume things in your head. There is no point in loosing your sleep by over thinking. So, stop thinking and start talking. Talk to your partner about your insecurities. This will also help you in understanding his thoughts about your relationship.

Be Alert

There are certain signs which will help you to identify that he has not completely got over her. Keep a subtle check over his behaviour. If he never mentions her to you if he has met her without your knowledge. Or he avoids eye contact with you when you mention her, you can spot the danger. Think very carefully in this case. Keep communication clear with your partner. Just tell him clearly that you cannot bear a situation like this. If he still doesn't listen, you know that it is time to move on.

So, here are a few simple ways in which you can tackle the intruder and get on with your love life.

Story first published: Thursday, August 22, 2013, 18:33 [IST]