10 Myths That Ruin Relationships

Friday, March 22, 2013, 13:29 [IST]

Myths are an integral part of human existence. We build myths around various things in our life. Needless to say that myths about relationship are more than common. After all, it is our relationships that define our lives. The only trouble is that relationship myths, just like all other myths are untrue. They are broad generalisations that serve only to ruin your relationships.

Having relationship problems is not such a big deal. But using some stereotypical myths on relationships to justify or overlook your problems can never lead to a solution. If you have relationship problems or issues, then you must face them and try to solve them. Relying on ancient relationship myths will not solve your problem.

Myth about relationships take you farther away from the problem that is haunting you and cloud your judgement. And whenever you take a decision based on misguided generalisations, you will end up ruining your relationship.

To save your relationship from ruining, be objective, these are the 10 most harmful myths that you must reject.

Love at first sight is romantic

Yes it is. But love at first sight is also impulsive and often immature. You cannot build a relationship on whimsical impulses. You need some solid compatibility and understanding for that.

Couples who fight are happy

Not always. It is true that couples who fight are venting their pent up emotions. However, too much fights can make your relationship bitter. So if you are fighting a lot, it does not mean that your relationship is going in the right direction.

Money can't buy you love

But money can buy you a lot of things that you want from life apart from love. You need all those things just as much as you want love. So, there can never be a choice between money and love.

Where there is love, family doesn't matter

Your family always matters no matter how much you love your partner. You belong to your family in terms of upbringing and that will continue to influence you all your life. The tug of war of emotions goes on forever.

I am in relationship with my soul mate, so I'll take shit

There is no such thing as soul mate in reality. It is a piece of fiction that is invented to make people complacent about their relationship. You can be compatible with your partner; that does not mean he/she is your soul mate.

Platonic love is stronger than physical intimacy

Do not live in a fool's paradise. What you can touch and feel is always more influential than intangible emotions. So physical intimacy is one of the most rudimentary anchors of a relationship.

When you love someone enough, you should be ready for marriage

There is no measure of love that must make you ready for marriage. Love and marriage are two different things; love does not necessarily have to end up in marriage. You may be in true love for years but still not be prepared for marriage.

Romance is the key element of a relationship

Romance is only a small drop in the large ocean of a relationship. You need things like compatibility, understanding and commitments for lasting relationships.

Long distance relationships work

Long distance relationship do work, but in movies and romantic novels. The whole point of a relationship is to stay close and that is how real-life relationships work.

All couples who look happy are actually happy

We have this false habit of looking at how happy other couples are and compare with our own relationship problems. All couples who 'look' happy may not be really happy in their private lives. They might not just display their problems in public.