5 Things Not To Say To A New Mom

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By Pooja Kaushal

Monday, March 30, 2015, 12:30 [IST]

Motherhood is a very special time in the life of every woman. At the same time she finds herself surrounded by much insecurity. Life takes a complete change. Always remember few things not to say to a new mom. We shall help you today in this article of ours.

All of a sudden she has to take care of a new life, a life that is completely dependent upon her. Her every move will impact the life of the little baby. She undergoes hormonal changes, the carefree life she knew is never to come back and the future is very uncertain.

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In such conditions you can be of help by keeping note of things not to say to a new mom.

When you meet a new mom you will want to congratulate her, wish her well and give your good wishes to the little baby. If you are really close to the new mom you may also give her a little insight into her future life and try to be of help.

But be sure you do not foray into subjects that tend to hurt her. There are things you should not say to a new mom since you are never sure how they may be received. It is like walking a very thin line since these words may hold different meanings for every woman.

1. What Is Your Baby’s Weight? Mine Was XXX
Every baby is different and the conditions prevailing before and after the birth vary for each one. Depending upon the conditions the baby’s weight is influenced. Besides, it is not necessary that every baby be very plump and heavy.

If your baby was a rather ‘healthy’ one so be it. You need not flaunt the fact trying to compare other newborns to your baby. For a mother her baby will always be the dearest and she will do all she can for the baby’s well-being.

2. Must Be Good To Stay Home All Day
With a newborn in her arms a woman is willing to keep her career aside for some time. In fact many women give up working to take care of their children. In spite of doing so a feeling within her always wants to get back to work.

It is a conflicting situation in her mind which she goes through till she is able to work a way out. In such conditions if you make a comment like ‘enjoying being home all day’ you never know how that will be taken.

Being home for a new mom means working all day long, giving up her career, not getting enough rest and not getting any time for herself.

3. Sleep When The Baby Sleeps
This is one advice that many people tend to give new moms. At the same time it is one of the things not to say to a new mom. How does a new mom sleep when the baby is sleeping? This is the only time she gets to wrap up other house chores.

With the baby asleep she has some time to work in peace and work gets done faster in this time.

4. Are You Not Breastfeeding?
Many women chose to breastfeed while many do not. There are many who face medical conditions and in spite of wanting to breastfeed cannot do so. Asking a woman whether she is breastfeeding or not is surely one of the strictest things you should not say to a new mom.

You never know the reasons behind the decision and prodding into such matters may only arouse distress or dislike.

5. You Have Put On So Much Weight
The body of every woman goes through changes after childbirth. Weight change is normal for all and it will take time for every woman to get back into her pre-baby body.

No one likes comments about one’s weight and so is the case here. Steer clear of this area of conversation and avoid arousing any ill feelings.

Childbirth for every woman brings about massive change in life. In such times friends and family can be supportive by helping her adjust to her new life, doing small things to make life easy and be there for her when the need be. It is deeds that count more than words.

So refrain from saying things not to say to a new mom and be her helping hand instead.