Chanakya Niti: Fix These Issues That Rob You Of Peace in marriage

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Chanakya was a counsellor to the king and common men alike. He was also an expert relationship counsellor who gave us a few words of his wisdom in his book Chanakya Niti. A beacon light for novies and experts alike, his words go beyond the ordinary level of commonsense and turns into words of wisdom. Let us see what qualities will make the spouse rethink about his or her decision of marrying the significant other.

Trust The Spouse To The Extent Possible

Doubt always robs the mind of clarity about anything that is on your mind. It does not allow it to be steady and lessens your confidence in yourself. A self-assured person is capable of accomplishing anything on his hand. If this doubt creeps into marital relationship, it spoils the harmony as doubt makes you question each and every move, each and every gesture, and conversations of your spouse. It goes to such an extent that you start tapping his or her phone to exactly know where you stand. When this grows to extremes, one day the relationship will snap on its own, and so doubt should not be entertained. It is also a sign of immaturity on the part of the spouse who doubts. It also indicates an over possessive streak that suffocates the spouse. Instead it is your dignity, silence observation and understanding of his situation and troubles will keep him or her by your side forever.

Do Not Let Ego Conflicts Trample Your Marital Happiness

Ego is not the problem of one partner. The other half which resents the egoistic behavior of the spouse also has an ego which he or she has managed to subdue somehow and that may not work for long. In the same profession marriage, there is a sense of competition that in the initial phase gets overlooked. Later it slowly takes over and becomes a huge obstacle on your marital path, that fails to budge at any cost and becomes a major preoccupation for both partners. Fighting with your and her ego at the same time, becomes a problem. There should be an humane element that should be the basis of any relationship. We must remember that relationship is not a power tussle that decides who is greater than whom but it is a partnership in which the partner is prepared to be the willing ear and the supportive shoulders to lean on. If you want to be in a relationship, it makes sense to make it successful. Relationships are meant to grow and bloom and succeed. Otherwise it cannot be called a relationship. You have to grow inside a relationship and not outgrow a relationship. If you do that, you will soon be out of it. If you find faults with the system, why ever would you choose a relationship to be in? If you subdue your ego and see partners side of the story, life will be far more beautiful.

Do Not Lie To Your Partner. It Is Not Fair

Lies are the basis of deceitful relationships and one must not lie at any cost. You show masks to society and not to your husband or wife because she or he deserves to see your real face and not the mask again! Honesty is the best policy no doubt. Lies are for business communication and not personal ones. Lies are for small talk in a gathering in a social event. But lies will have to stay there, outside home and should not be invited inside the home. Inside the home, we are ourselves and not what we want to be.

Show The Respect Your Partner Deserves As A Human Being

Respect is the ultimate form of love that we show towards a person. It is deep rooted love that we feel towards our loved ones. Respect in a relationship barricades all possible ontowards incidences in a relationship. Let us agree that not all people are respectworthy. But remember the basic adage, that all souls are born equal but cremated differently and every soul is worthy of respect. When we go beyond the trappings of achievements, status, money and so on, you see a person's real self that needs human consideration and empathy. Try displaying one of the above qualities, and see the quality of your life improve.

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