Why Girls Should Work After Marriage

By Pooja Kaushal

In a typical Indian family what happens to a girl’s freedom after marriage? In most cases, especially small towns, the life of a girl takes a complete change after marriage. From a daughter she becomes a daughter-in-law, wife and eventually mother. And to fulfill her duties the first step that she takes is to quit her job. But is it necessary for a girl to give up working after marriage? Is she not capable enough of taking care of family and work simultaneously? Most likely she is quite capable of doing so but the thought with which women are brought up makes it difficult to work.

A girl is brought up with the thought that her primary responsibility is to take care of home and family. Her aim in life is to work for the happiness of the family and children. And to see to it that she fulfills this responsibility with complete dedication the girl’s career after marriage is bid goodbye.

Things Women Sacrifice In life Post Marriage

When a girl decides to quit working she decides to confine herself within herself; she decides to shut all doors to the outside world and to a great extent she decides to become dependent upon her husband. Times have changed and life has moved beyond the walls and doors of the house. A girl should try to continue working even after marriage in order to have control over her own life and for her own good.

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Self-respect
One can never live a happy and satisfying life in the absence of self-respect. When a girl’s freedom after marriage is curtailed and she is confined to the four walls of the house with a life revolving only around her family she loses control over herself. A time comes when she is unable to think for herself, take decisions and may also doubt her own capabilities and respect for self is lost.

Independent Life
No matter how little a woman earns after marriage it is still important for her to work. It gives her an independence which she will never be able to find when working only for the home. Life without family is incomplete but there is life beyond family. There is a little bit of independence we all seek to think freely and for oneself. Being in a job helps achieve that independence.

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Financial Freedom
When a woman knows that she too can earn she is able to take financial decisions for the family. She has the freedom to think and invest. This goes a long way in helping her build respect for herself and work towards the betterment of the family and home.

Learning Process
Learning is a never ending process. No matter what stage of life you are in there is always something to learn and explore. When a woman decides to quit her job she decides to shut herself out to the outside world. There are many things she misses out on and this leaves her with stagnant knowledge. Working helps learn and explore new areas of life and get to know about the happenings in and around her world.

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Self-development

Learning new things means giving oneself a chance to develop. When we open ourselves up to developments happening around us we try to embrace change which in turn is very important for self-development.

Family support
With that extra income flowing in it always helps take better care of home and family. A woman working also means that the task of fending for the family is shared by the couple. This not only eases out the pressure on both husband and wife but also gives them a chance to spend more time with each other and children.

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Utilization Of Talent
What happens to all that knowledge acquired in school and college? It would be best to put it to some use and make a living out of it. This helps the woman be in touch with developments and also brush up her own knowledge.

Role Model Mother
A mother who works and takes care of a family passes on this message to her family and children that a woman is not only capable of taking care of a family but can also manage a job with equal efficiency. The perception that the society has created around the role of a woman needs to be changed and a woman can do it best.

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Life Beyond Family
No matter how dedicated a woman is a to a family and irrespective of how much her family loves her a time comes when a woman is left all alone with herself. Her husband will have his job to see to and her children will grow up and move on with their lives. In such times if a woman has her own job to see to she will never feel that loneliness. Her life beyond family will help her take charge of her life.

Internal Satisfaction
A woman may give in all her hard work and time caring for the family – cooking, cleaning, shopping, caring for children and husband, etc. Seeing her family flourish will surely give her immense satisfaction but yet there will be a voice in her asking her what she has done for herself. That internal satisfaction of having achieved something may elude her if she does not work for herself.

Every human has a life to live and should be given the freedom to make certain choices. A girl’s freedom after marriage should not be curtailed. She should be given an opportunity to decide for herself whether she desires to work or not. Depending upon her individual independent decision she should be allowed to chalk out her plans.

Story first published: Tuesday, March 3, 2015, 16:32 [IST]
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