How To Talk To Your Spouse Again

Marriage is probably the best sign of permanence. But what is permanent becomes boring after a while. If someone told you that you have to learn how to talk to your spouse, you would probably laugh. But after being married for many years, it is hard to be chatting with your spouse. You run out of topics to talk about.

The first few years of marriage are full of excitement and passion. But eventually, married couples settle down in a limbo. This is when you have to think about how to talk to your spouse again. If a married couple does not talk, then they start becoming distant from each other. That is why it crucial that you talk to your partner regularly.

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Most importantly, you must have quality conversations with your spouse. It does not matter how long you talk to each other. But it is important that you talk about the right things and both of you enjoy the conversation. That is why you need to learn to talk to your spouse again even if you are married for a decade.

Here are some methods to help you have conversations with your husband or wife.

Start off well

Start off well

Don't just talk for the sake of talking. It is important to say the right things. If you talk about the weather your spouse will mentally tune you out anyway.

Have points in mind

Have points in mind

These days we are so busy that it you don't make a note of things you will forget about it. Make a mental note of the things you have to say to your spouse today. You can do this while travelling to and from work.

Switch off the television

Switch off the television

Your television set is the biggest distraction for your conversation. Talking while the TV is on is totally useless. Switch off the idiot box and spend some time with each other.

Talk in bed

Talk in bed

The most intimate of things are said in bed. So talk about something romantic in bed. It can help you to become close again.

Plan things together

Plan things together

Making plans for vacations, outings or parties can get both of you very excited. So plan things together and you have plenty to talk about.

Rekindle old memories

Rekindle old memories

There was a time when you were close to your spouse. You can watch old photographs or your wedding video to rekindle old memories and talk about them.

Have a night out

Have a night out

Sometimes going out of your everyday atmosphere, your home, can help you to open up again. Go clubbing or go for a dinner together.

Web chatting can be an option

Web chatting can be an option

Chatting with your spouse on the phone or web is a very novel way to talk again. It gives you a sense of impersonality that feels like you are wooing each other again.

Your kids are subjects of conversation

Your kids are subjects of conversation

If you have kids, then they are the best topics for conversation. You can talk for hours about your children, their activities, studies, hobbies etc.

Listening is also important

Listening is also important

It is not enough to talk. You must also listen to what your spouse has to say. It takes two to have a conversation.

Story first published: Thursday, February 20, 2014, 17:42 [IST]