Tips To Survive A Horrible Marriage

By Vinutha S

Do you think there is no more love left in your marriage? Are you worried about losing your partner? It's never too late to fix the issues. Marriage is a beautiful bond between two hearts. When there comes rift in it, you tend to fall apart and even think of separating for life. But that is not the solution. You need to sort out things and regain the love and happiness in your married life.

Marriage is never horrible itself until you make your partner feel so. It is better to avoid such feelings of hatred and vainness in the relationship. Your happiness is always in your hands, so never lend it to others. Yet another important factor is communication, never fail on this. Always try to communicate things well with your partners to avoid confusions and complications.

If you are struggling to save your marriage here are few tips:

Say no to ego

Say no to ego

When in love and bound in a relationship you should never let ego come between you and your partner. Ego is the most dangerous thing in a married life. Ego not only kills your love, but also create hatred towards your partner.

Understand your partner

Understand your partner

If you are going through a worse stage in your married life, give some time and space to your partner. Understand them in and out, share their problems, and help them sort out things. Make them feel that your involvement in their life brings a positive change.

Never bring past to present

Never bring past to present

Past life is a blend of sweet and bitter memories. It is better to hold on to sweet memories and let go the bitter ones. This applies to both the people in a relationship. Try and avoid bringing up the past issue and argue over it in the present.

Be generous and forgive

Be generous and forgive

After all he/ she is your soul mate, there is no harm in forgiving them for their mistakes. We are humans and tend to make mistakes. So be kind enough to forgive them and at the same time you must be sure of not committing the same mistake again.

Speak out

Speak out

You share the most personal relationship with your partner, so there is no harm in talking out things and resolving then and there. Never drag an issue too long. Sit with them hold hands, speak out and sort out.

Say no to third person

Say no to third person

Never let a third person involve in your life unless they are associated with the issue. Make sure the third person involved solves the issue and not spoils it. It is advisable to deal with things only with your partner instead of bringing in a third person.

Get involved in activities

Get involved in activities

When you get a feeling that you are drifting away from your partner, try to get closer to them. Head to an isolated place, spend some time together, do some activities together. Togetherness leads to happiness and bliss.

Never hesitate to say sorry

Never hesitate to say sorry

There is no harm in saying sorry. Sorry is the most healing word. When you know it's your fault be bold enough to accept and apologies. You will reach a higher place in your partner's heart.

Convey your opinion

Convey your opinion

Never hesitate to convey your opinions in any issues. Always be available to your partner because you may never know when they need you. Your involvement must bring a positive and merry change.

Avoid silly and petty issues

Avoid silly and petty issues

Mostly marriages go horrible because of silly and petty fights, arguments and issues. Avoid these rather stop these to survive your marriage. Shower love instead of arguments and fights. You will see a happy life ahead.

Story first published: Wednesday, October 16, 2013, 16:57 [IST]
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