Relationship Therapist Advice For Couples

Marriage And Beyond

oi-Denise Baptiste

By Denise Baptiste

Tuesday, February 1, 2011, 14:53

When you fall in love there are many problems that tag along. Being romantically involved with a special person in a marriage may not end up in the way you wanted it to be so therefore there will be an extreme time when you might have to visit a relationship therapist to make your union work.

Some couples find it hard to believe that if they visit a relationship therapist things may just go the same way as it is going right now , but you might never know unless you try if a relationship therapist really works for you and your partner to rekindle that love you once had.

If you are not keen on visiting a relationship therapist to help you solve your marriage problems, then let me tell you how you can do it at without a third interference.

1.The very first thing to solve in your marriage problem is to have a good communication with each other. Try to understand the feelings you have and set aside differences. It is important to notice your partner's emotions and feelings. Questioning on how he or she feels for the day or asking if he or she is happy or sad by the state of emotions is very essential. Through this it shows you are paying closer attention to him/her and thus helps affection to grow.

2.In a marriage, it has to be a two way street, in simple terms. Do not think of yourself all the time and ignore that he/she is existing. See to it that you involve yourself in your spouse's life so that you can help him/her through times of difficulty. In many marriages, couples think of themselves individually and their own growth towards life leaving out their partner. This, however should not be there.

3.Saying your sorry if you mean it is very important. Just to end heated arguments and petty misunderstandings some married couples tend to say sorry even if its not their fault. This does not makes sense at all. You should remember that an apology from the heart always brings about closeness and trust taking away all marriage problems.

4.After you have tied the knot, many married couples feel that all the romance in the relationship they had earlier is gone. It should never lead to this as one would get tired of the union. Make the marriage interesting just the way your relationship was before you said,'I do'. There are many ways to solve marriage problems and one fine way is to compliment each other now and again and express the way you feel. It will surely bind you closer.

These are some of the advice most relationship therapist would give to married couples.