Is Your Wife Clinically Depressed?

Marriage And Beyond

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By Anwesha Barari

Thursday, September 29, 2011, 18:16

Does your wife seem depressed lately? Don't brush it off as PMS (premenstrual stress). It is true that women go though a 'low' just before and during their periods the reasons for which are purely hormonal. After a few years of marriage men get used to these temporary mood swings of their wife and learn to ignore it. However hormones are not the only reason for your wife being depressed. A depressed spouse will give rise to a lot of marriage problems. So nip it in the bud if you want to save your marriage.

Here are some marriage tips to deal with your depressed spouse.

Tips To Deal With Depressed Wife:

• To deal with your depressed spouse you have to get to the core of the matter. Only if you know why she is depressed will you be able to solve her problem. Otherwise she will sink into a deep dark abyss of self pity from where you won't ever be able to rescue her.

• Some women become depressed when they put on weight. It may be for good or bad but women are always very conscious about their weight. So if they put on weight after marriage or are unable to get back into shape after pregnancy, depression may creep into their lives.

• Your wife might be depressed because she is loosing beauty with age. There is a very small percentage of women who age gracefully. Women by virtue of their nature have more vanity in them than men so they take loss of youth pretty hard. There is no need to be judgmental about it; just understand it as a basic manifestation of nature.

• For both the above cases you are the only one who can remedy your wife's problem. Make her feel loved. Tell her how dignified she looks with gray hair. Help her loose weight by going for a jog together. All these measures will cheer her up.

• Women are depressed when they feel that their life is worthless. Most women give up their careers for raising a family. She makes all the sacrifices and in the end the children grow up and stop needing her anymore. The time from 40 to 50 is the most dangerous for clinical depression and you have be alert to avoid it.

• Don't let the feeling of 'worthlessness' creep into her. Encourage her to cultivate a hobby or take up a part time job. Sometime earning money gives women a great sense of self worth that nothing else can.
  

• You could also tell her help you in small ways. Involve her in your financial decisions. Let her do all the bank work and handle your investments. Even surfing on social networking site scan help.

There is a thin line of difference between being severely upset and clinical depressed. Identify the signs of gloom in your depressed wife early to save your marriage.