When You Stand Between Spouse And Your Family....

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Just imagine that you are standing in the middle of a bridge with equally enchanting scenery at both ends. You are confused where to go to as you want to attain comforts at both ends at the same time. At the same moment you realize that these two ends will never meet up. This is the same situation that you will face while standing in between your spouse and your dear family.

There will be a pulling situation in every married person's life to choose between their family and spouse. Irrespective of gender every one who enjoys the marital bliss, suffers this trauma. However the situation becomes worse as you hesitates to get into the house, or attend any calls, fearing to listen the complaints about your family from your spouse or vice versa. Here are some cautious steps that you have to take for keeping both relationships healthy and intact under a same umbrella.

Love marriages
A survey has proved that nearly 75% of the couple in love marriages suffer from the confusion to choose between their family and spouse. It is true that when the flame of love burnt hot in your veins, you preferred your spouse to the family. However as the realities of life has started to dawn upon them, you start to see your family in a new light.

The situation gets worsened as your family ignores or abuse your spouse in anger and he/she responds in a same manner. Your spouse may show you as a winner's trophy that you know very well will break your family's heart. In the heart of heart you also realize your family's love towards you. At the same time you know that your spouse will be devastated without your love in his/her life.

Arranged Marriages
Couples in arranged marriages are also not exempted from the rift between their spouse and family. The issues may rise up due to simple misunderstandings or ego clashes. Your family may try to instruct your spouse as they had done to you all along the life. This may be acceptable for you and your spouse may find it irksome.

The situation may gets worsened as your spouse's family starts to take sides. They may instruct your spouse to level against your family and introduce you to the culture of his/her family. You may feel to give all the support to your family. However you will be reluctant at the same time to break a new found love.

What should you do?
First and foremost, keep a cool head. You know very well that you haven't added up spice to the row between the families. Analyze the situation in an impartial mode and come to a conclusion on who is wrong in the row.

Now it is time to reason out the issue to both the parties. Never be over emotional and over demanding to both the parties. It will be difficult for the wrongdoer to admit their guilt and the victim to forgive the other. Call up both your spouse and family together and express your views on the situation. Let them talk to you at apt times. Be clear in your intentions and never let them to accuse each other.

Always remember that you are the key figure in this row and bot the parties look up to you for the love or support. Tell them that you cannot live without them and your happiness depends on their happy union. There is no family in this world who will not yield to the pleadings of their child, or no spouse who will not want wipe the tears of the loving partner.