An Abusive 'Ex' & A Possessive Partner To Dwindle Your Marriage

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Philosophers always preach that the life is not a smooth carpet of flowers but sometimes strewn with thorns also. We have to tread through the thorn-spread paths at many instances in life. One such is situation is that when you have to stand in between two equally emotionalized people, who are none other than your abusive ex lover and possessive partner.

The golden light of love must have shone your life for quite a long time, from your ex-lover. You might be loyal and affectionate to your ex-lover during those romantic days. However time showed the bullying character of your lover and you had to flee from the relationship. You might have undergone sleepless nights lamenting over the abusive relationship that you had to endure with a much-loved person. Then a new ray of hope arises in front of you in the form a marital relationship.

You may find your husband/wife all loving and dedicated to the welfare of your relationship. However, you are smart enough to understand that he/she cannot bear to hear your name with another person be it in the past, present or future. Even though you love, trust and confident of your partner"s love towards you, the possessiveness of your partner forces you to lock the abusive past relationship in the depth of your heart.

You must be leading a contended life when the inevitable gloom arises. On a fine day you"ll be receiving a phone call from your ex-lover. He/ she may be with words full of love, the pain of the lost love and a request to meet you at least once. You may or may not yield to this final request to meet your ex-lover. Whatever may be your decision, the engulfing dilemma begins at this moment.

The sensitive lover in you may easily yield to the repenting words of your ex-lover. However, at the moment you step out to meet him/her, you are risking the loyalty and love of your husband/wife. You cannot share this secret with your entrusting at the same time possessive partner. However the fear of your partner finding out your secret visits will spoil your sleep. The situation gets worsened when your ex-lover demands frequent visits and the old physical or emotional intimacy from your side.

Now, you may be wondering that why to risk this situation by arranging a meeting with the repenting heart. If you are trying to shut out your ex-lover from your life, then also you are in a wrong foot. You may start to receive phone calls at odd hours, hints of the old love letters or photo shoots from anonymous situations and ultimately you"ll start to fear a single knock at the door.

You are in a situation when even the brave hearts decided to quit forever. You cannot loose the ray of love and hope from your partner for the dreadful past relationship. However, without your permission your ex lover is intruding into your life. How to solve this situation by keeping the love, trust and respect of your partner? To whom should you turn for help without letting the news to catch fire? Read the solution for your dilemmas in the next article.