Share A Bed With All The Odds

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"I was drained totally after that heavy work in the day. I reached home to see that my whole house was in a mess because of my dog and my 5-year-old daughter.

My husband comes home late, and is up in arms with me, because of his missing files. We use words to worsen the situation. I go early to bed with my daughter and he is left with the dog to sleep outside on the sofa."

Isn't that a common phenomenon in most of our houses?

Bedtime behavior reflects the relationship you share with your partner.

Tete-a-tete vs. Lovemaking:

Both the sexes look for love, warmth, passion, and intimacy. But the way they choose to meet their needs are different. These differences lead to frustration, rejection and finally drifts them apart.

The man's idea of love is more physical, in the sense lovemaking. But, woman mainly connects through conversations. She wants to feel the warmth of a good listener, who can listen even to her silliest story. But, when her partner fails to do so, and concentrates more on the part of sexual relationship, she begins to drift away gradually. To meet both the needs, first win the heart of woman. Be calm when you go to bed. Take some time to ask her, how her day was? Spend sometime in conversation about the family, friends and children. Get close to each other, by understanding each other meticulously. This will rally round in the growth of your relationship and fulfill both your desires. Bed need not be only for love making, make it also a place for love, sharing and caring. After a busy day this is the only place both of you spend most of your time together

Snoring:

Snoring is the most common problem, which most couples face. A recent survey shows 30% of all marriages go through this factor. This problem may even lead to divorce. True that bedtime is the only time of the day when you get to share your feelings and intimacy with your partner, but what if, this is forgoing your sleep.

Do no be rude to your partner and use words that will hurt them. Instead try and help to solve the problem. Losing some weight, cutting on alcohol especially at night, and avoiding heavy dinner are some of the methods to stop snoring. Experts suggest, that non-snorers sleep before the person who snores or nudge the partner and roll them over to one side if he/she is lying on their back.

Sleeping apart may not affect the relationship if, couples spend some quality time together before they go off to sleep. This may not hold good for all as sleeping together is just a physical convenience for some and emotional bonding for some. Today most couples working in shifts prefer sleeping apart, in order not to disturb the other.

Gestures of love:

Showing thoughtful gestures of love during the day reflects when you are in bed. After few years, of married life, men forget to show gestures of affection. It may be for the fact that they think, when the woman is theirs there is no need to shower extra love. Or perhaps he thinks that he has crossed his teens. This on the contrary may lead to unrest. You will often find her complaining, that you are not the same and even suspects that you are dating someone else. Why be a cause of all those suspicions and anger? Repeat the gestures that one her in the beginning, give her flowers when you get back home, open the car door for her, help her in the kitchen, take her for a long drive. Make her feel special.

Women are not an exemption. As years roll by they too forget to recognize and thank their partners. He may not be giving you flowers, but will surely be doing something for the family now and then. Appreciate him for his thoughtfulness. Thank him for being there when needed. Tell him he is the best man in the world. And there is none in comparison to him.

If you aren't able to show these gestures during the day, try to do it before you go to bed. These are the simple gestures that will build up your bedtime behavior.

Sleeping with the child:

Children up to the age of five, need mother's care. Men prefer sleeping at the sides for the fear that they may roll over the baby. Place the baby on a cradle near the bed, so that is easy to nurse when required.

The birth of child changes every aspect of living of the couple including the hour of sleep and lovemaking. The child interrupts them all the time. It's advisable to put the child to sleep and indulge in that lovable conversation that you don't want the child to hear. Help the child to learn to sleep alone and become independent. In this way you will help the child and even yourselves.

The way you spend the day with your partner does reflect when you are in bed. To have a goodnight's sleep with your partner build a relationship. Make them feel special. Learn to share a bed despite odds to overcome differences. Goodnight, sleep tight; let not all the odds bother.