10 Things We Need From Relationships

Tuesday, September 16, 2014, 17:58 [IST]

Relationships are not made in heaven; they are very earthy matter that have to be sorted out by human beings. If you believe in the concept of soul mates or divine intervention in your relationships, then you will be shocked by the reality. The fact is that we all have certain needs from a relationship. If you understand what you want from a relationship clearly, then half the problems you have with your partner will be solved automatically.

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It is silly to pretend that you don't need anything from a relationship apart from love. There are always some very basic reasons why we have relationships. Denying these reasons is to weaken the base of your relationship. You must always know the reason why you fall in love and don't be bothered if the reasons seem very selfish.

If you know and accept the things you need from a relationship, then you will fare better in your love life. Not only will you choose the right person to suit your needs, you will also have better chances of being successful in your relationships.

Excitement

One of the first experiences of falling in love and getting into a relationship is the heady excitement. Our lives are basically boring and we all need an element of excitement from our relationships.

Stability

Most normal human beings want their relationships with the opposite sex to be lasting. They don't want to jump from one partner's bed into another's. We all want a certain degree of stability in our lives.

Physical Love

Love is a very vague concept and it is difficult to define. What we all want from our romantic relationships is a type of physical love. We want to be touched, felt and loved in a sexual way by our partner.

Respect

A relationship can last without love or sacrifice but it can never last without respect. We want our partner to respect us as human beings first. It is one of the most basic things we need from a relationship.

Commitment

A relationship cannot go on for too long without the promise of a future. When we are in a healthy and happy relationship, the topic of future and commitment will crop up sooner or later.

Sharing

Human beings are social animals; we need to share our feelings in order to remain emotionally sound. That is why; one of the main reasons for getting into a relationship is to share your life.

Comfort

We have relationship so that there is someone to hold our hand on a rainy day. We all want the cushion and comfort of having someone to take away our fears and tears.

Understanding

We expect our partner to understand what we are feeling without being told. That is one of the things we want from our relationship and often do not end up getting.

Sacrifice

We might say that we do not want our partner to sacrifice on our behalf but it's a lie. Relationships survive on the basis of sacrifice. It is important that we sacrifice for our partner and he/she returns the favour.