Reasons Why You Shouldn't Worry About His Ex

Everyone has a past, you shouldn’t be surprised when you hear that your husband had an affair before your marriage. Marriage is an understanding and a commitment between a man and a woman that will last till they die. It is a promise and you have to always try to keep the relationship going smooth.

He may mention about his ex to you when he is comfortable to tell you or he might not tell you at all. Irrespective of what the situation is, talk to him about it and ask him what he feels or how you need to go about it.

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There is no reason you should be insecure about his ex, unless you find out some other reason like he doesn’t love you anymore or that he still has an affair with his ex.

If you feel that there is something drastically wrong, you could opt for professional help which will help your marriage.

Following are a few reasons as to why you shouldn’t worry about his ex and even if these reasons don’t pacify you, you can always talk to your husband who is the most appropriate person to convince you in this matter.

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He Chose You
One of the main reasons you shouldn’t be insecure about his ex is that no matter who he loved before you, he has moved on. Now, he has chosen you and loves you. You should be able to accept this fact and try and move on with life. It is left in your hands, you need not be intimidated by their history; be yourself and make many more memorable moments.

You are His Present and Future
Another reason why you shouldn’t worry about his ex is that, it is his past, everyone does have one. But when he chose you, you became his present and his future. So, you have no reason to worry. Also, you can talk to him about this, but nagging and always talking about it is not going to help either of you or your marriage.

He is transparent
There may be situations when your husband thinks about her, but it is just as simple as the way how he thinks of his childhood friend or an old classmate. They are just memories and he is not clinging to it as if that were the priority. If you see any of their photos together, you don’t need to freak out. It just shows he has nothing to hide.

Moving on
Your husband and his ex would have moved on and you the only one in his life now. Only you would need to let go and move on too. They would have broken up for a reason and needed someone better; and that someone better is what he found in you.

Never comparing
Another reason why you shouldn't worry about his ex is that he is never comparing you with her. You don’t have to compare yourself to her either and try to prove to him that you are better. He loves you and has accepted you the way you are.

Story first published: Saturday, August 30, 2014, 11:49 [IST]
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