Don’t Let Your Girlfriend’s Past Haunt You

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There is an old native saying in India, when you try to dig for earth worms, you end up finding snakes. So digging into your girlfriend's past is a bad idea to begin with. We are at a state of society where we can openly admit to having past relationships. Most first relationships do not work out. There is no guilt or social stigma associated with this.

It has been observed that men find it more difficult to deal with their girlfriend's past than women. Women tend to accept past relationships of their partners more readily. However, men are haunted by the need to know everything about their girlfriend's past.

Here are some reasons why you should insist on knowing about the past relationships of your girlfriend.

Unpleasant Details: First of all, you may not like what you find out. Every relationship ends because there is something wrong with it. So if you dig up the sordid details of your girlfriend's life, you will only be further repelled by them.

Judgmental: Knowing too much about your girlfriend's past may make you judgmental about her. You start presuming that she reacts in certain situations because of her emotional baggage from past relationships.

Emotional Baggage: We all carry emotional baggage from past relationships. If we didn't then we would be robots not human beings. So there is no harm if your girlfriend's past has scarred her. It is your duty to heal that scar not to gorge it and make it deeper.

Women Are Secretive: Women are generally more secretive than men. They will never share all the details about their ex boyfriends with you. You have to accept this as basic female nature. It is not like she wants to lie to you, but she just doesn't feel like sharing the whole truth.

Use Past For Fights: If you know too much about your girlfriend's past then you might use it against her when you two are fighting. This is a severe breech of trust and totally unethical. Your girlfriend might never forgive you for bringing up her past in anger. You might lose out on a good relationship just for an impulsive error.

These are some solid reasons to stop digging into your girlfriend's past. Do you get haunted by curiosity about your partner's past?