Gain Control Over Your Relationship

By Sowmiya Prasad

Every relationship is about power and courage, and that doesn't come by enjoying the happy times always. Courage and success in a relationship comes by sailing through some of the most difficult times, seeking solutions to some of the most difficult problems and managing stress. Say ‘Yes' or ‘No', it is an inevitable fact that all of us expect some degree of control in our relationships. A definite control over your relationship makes our lives even happier and fulfilled. However, a strict control may end up dominating each other.

There are men and women in the society who find it difficult to find a partner or keeping a relationship. Both men and women may be mystified by the fact that what runs in his/ her partner's mind. Sometimes moving apart for silly faults may boil down to something serious, and this gives rise to some of the faulty assumptions. The ultimate mantra to gain control over your relationship is to first gain control over yourselves. If you are composed and at peace with yourself, there is hardly any force that can predate your relationship.

Trying not to sugar-coat anything, here are a few points which can help you gain a perfect control over your relationships.

Take responsibility of your own happiness

Take responsibility of your own happiness

The first thing you need to learn in a relationship is to be happy with yourself. Don't give anyone a chance to define you on the basis of your relationship.

Practice honesty

Practice honesty

Being honest to your partner is something important when it comes to a relationship. Honesty is the best policy, so practice it, and it will work wonders in your relationship.

Make peace with your thoughts and actions

Make peace with your thoughts and actions

Don't expect everything in this world to go according to your wishes. So learn and mould yourself to face uncertainties and ambiguities. This will help you gain control in relationships.

Look at the bigger picture

Look at the bigger picture

Try to focus on each and every small part that can contribute to your bigger picture, rather than focusing on just a single event that is beyond your reach. This will help to gain control over your relationship.

Trust yourself

Trust yourself

Be confident about yourself and face things that come your way. A belief that you can do anything can help you go a long way. Try it and enjoy the benefits.

Avoid fear

Avoid fear

Unwanted fear may only cause distress, so try avoiding it. Fear that pops up in your mind is worse than the reality itself. Don't imagine stuff and create a story in your mind.

Optimism speaks

Optimism speaks

Surround yourself with positive and forward looking people. This will give you courage to face what life throws your way. Life is tough at times, only optimism can help you cross the hurdles.

Make your priorities clear

Make your priorities clear

Discuss the priorities and set the things straight to gain control over your relationship. Try not to think too much and develop a story out of it. Chart out your priorities; this will help you plan your life better.

Trust Love

Trust Love

One of the best things you can do is it to trust the big thing called 'love'. Love takes things in its own terms, accept it. There is nothing more than love.

Never give up

Never give up

Successful relationship doesn't happen by knowing everything or planning ahead. It happens through the great thing called love. So never give up on love. Enjoy the bliss of love and live life to the fullest. What bigger gift can life offer you?

Story first published: Saturday, September 28, 2013, 19:29 [IST]
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