Is Your Sweetheart A Compulsive Liar?

Add as a preferred source on Google

'I walked up to her and said, "My colleagues complimented you today. They said you're the most beautiful woman in the world with a sweet voice like honey. You look just great in that traditional outfit." Well! The fact was that they complimented her attire, but what's wrong if I added some spice in it. She felt so good.

Do we do this most of the time? Yes, we do. We lie to our partners to win them over or due to fear that they will get hurt or to get away from some sticky situation.

Lying is normal. It is a common disease, which everybody suffers. However if lying becomes instinctive, effortless, and impulsive and even if there is no real reason, you lie; you are in a problem that needs immediate medication. You are suffering from a deadly disease called 'compulsive lying'that can outroot your healthy relationship.

Who is a compulsive liar?

A compulsive liar is defined as someone who lies out of habit. Lying is their normal and automatic way of responding to a question. They cannot speak the truth most of the time and they have to bend the truth whether large or small. It usually develops in early childhood. Maybe a child grows in an enviroment where lying is made necessary and routine. It may also stem from guilt, worry, doubt or low esteem.

An individual may practisce compulsive lying if he/she senses that it helps to reduce conflicts, allows people to maintain their privacy and prevents unnecessary heartache and pain. This shows that compulsive liars are not pathalogical liars who do it due to purpose or on some cunning basis. They rather simply lie out of habit that is hard to break.

How can you help your partner get over compulsive lying?

It may seem harsh on your sweetheart but it is necessary to combat this sickness. If you find that he/she is lying then give him/her the evidence and ask the person why did he/she lie? Your sweetheart may resent the topic or abuse you for spying him/her. It may hurt but be stable in your viewpoint and make the person understand the need to tell the truth.

Make your lover understand that you love him/her irrespective of anything and will help him to recover his/her bad habit. Support him/her to rise up and not to fall back in your sight.

Talk to your lover about the issue. Do not step back to get any counseling from a psychiatrist. It is a psychological problem and handle it with care lest you will lose your loving relationship. Set some small and specific goals for your partner. Show that you do not trust your lover through gestures and not words when he/she starts building up castles in the air. He/she will slowly resent from the habit, as not doing it with purpose. Your lover will surely doesn't want to loose you. Enhance their self-esteem, image and encourage acceptance.

Do not ask the person to promise that he will never lie, as it will never happen instantly. It takes time. Give him/her the time and space that he needs.

Victims of compulsive lying

Compulsive lying affect the liars' lives and the lives of the people around them. Corrosive doubt will always linger about manipulation, leaving the victim emotionally hurt because of the deceit they have experience. They are always less confident about future relationships. The past may be bad but you can still make most of the future.