Keeping the excitement high

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Before you met your first girlfriend / boyfriend and asked him/her out, you were all excited about it as you were full of the pre-relationship excitement. Then when you made your move and were officially a couple, it was fun...those jitters were fun though you struggled through finally fighting the fear to speak up and to take it to the next level and then to the next level...now you are a couple very much in love but its more than what you bargained for when you initially got into the relationship. It was initially all about the fun, but now it s grown - you are serious lovers. Right upto this point, you had a protocol going. Now it's become the mundane happenings of an exciting relationship that have gone levels beyond simple flirtations and the basic dating into a full-fledged relationship...somewhat like a reality check saying now you're truly in love and you are looking for that 'high' but all you get is the same reality check over and over again...

To keep the excitement up, plan to spend time together, with 'being together' being the point of the whole affair, with an activity in mind. A movie, a play, a concert, a group dinner or just go out for coffee with common friends whom you'll both know...anything to keep the both of you from being alone with each other with the only thing to do looking into each others eyes and telling him/her what you really think of them. When you're riding on the excitement of the relationship, you might not want it to get serious, say something stupid and build up an argument on it and start bickering like small little children. However serious you get, if you can't have fun, its no use. If you catch yourself in those moments when you both stop short of speech, you are looking into each others eyes. But if you say it the relationship goes many a notch higher and it becomes a "boring" relationship...break the ice with child play like if you were two little children in love with each other-throwing your "maturity" out the window. Those things that you might say, in truth don't have to be said. You feel them from across each other and that is the most beautiful feeling.

Once you reach a stage that you're his boyfriend or she's you're girlfriend or vice versa, the daily phone call, the regular cup of coffee become like a routine and you become like a really old couple who would look cute if they were eighty plus each but you wouldn't have any of it. It's like pushing you both being together too far. The relationship itself was working by itself all this time and now when you push it into overdrive, you have to follow protocol to keep it up.

When you find that you've reached that stage the protocol stops just because you don't speak to each other all the time on the phone, it doesn't mean that you are not in love. Love has gone to a new level from where it is grander and more beautiful than before. It's like this piece of advice that a father gives a daughter in a movie that I once saw. He tells his daughter that love is not at its peak when the signs show, when the whole world can see it and when the excitement is you. When you go past the romance and all the excitement, what remains truly speaks of the love that it really is. The excitement only hides the feelings that you have for each other.

Keeping you relationship alive is important because if it doesn't have 'enough juice' in it you might as well give up trying because it just isn't worth it. Unless you hold it together (among all the other things that do the same), nothing else will.