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Love And Romance

oi-Staff

By Super Admin

Wednesday, June 1, 2011, 11:09

How can you fall in love with someone you haven't met or seen? What if he's a "60 plus frustrated baldie claiming to be a 20 plus" ? These and more were the reactions I faced when I fell in love with a cyber pal.

It all started in September 2003, I was at Yahoo chat room, just killing time, when my eyes went to this user Praan. He was telling the room in general, that he was an Indian and had never lived in India . . . I saw him as a person I could talk to about this beautiful country of ours. We barely exchanged our email addresses and got disconnected!

Well, life went on, and then I got an email from him. . . saying that we had met in the chat room and he just wanted to say hi! I didn't reply for a very long time. . . later I did and it was a one liner saying, "Sorry for the late reply, as I have been very busy". He then sent me a snail mail, a card and his picture. In due course of time, our communication progressed and we got to know each other better. Well, then he asked for my phone number that I was initially scared to give it, I finally did after I got to know that all he wanted to do was to wish me on Christmas day!

Now since he had sent me his picture, he naturally wanted me to send mine. I sent it and after which I got this beautiful poem from him, written out to me on how he thought I looked. By now he was falling in love with me. . . But I didn't feel so strongly towards him. And above all this, I was afraid of how alien and unheard of our feelings towards each other were.

Then, net romances had not become so common yet. So, I was deliberately bitter towards him and tried to end it there. . . but couldn't. I didn't talk to too many people about it initially. But then things were out of control. . . we were in love and meeting each other was the only other step. But all this time we hadn't told each other in so many words that we were in love with each other.

He said he was coming to India in November 2003. And it was a long wait. As we couldn't wait to see each other. But all worth it! It was around 5:30 am on November 24 a cold Monday morning that I saw him at Dadar station, in Mumbai he was coming with a friend from Vizag. It was so great that morning naturally I couldn't sleep all of Sunday I kept my friend awake too! But when I saw him that time I was numb... completely numb, didn't feel anything at all! A simple handshake and a smile to welcome him to Mumbai, that's all! It was his first time here. It was two days after we had met that we shared our feelings towards each other. That was another beautiful experience!

Well, then he flew back to Calcutta. He had actually come to India for, his sister's wedding. I thought that I will never see him again but he was optimistic. We planned to meet soon after that before he actually left the country for good. . . this time round it was in Delhi. . . and both of us were only glad that circumstances could be worked round it.

My mum threw a mad fit about it when she got to know! To top it all, none of my friends were willing to go with me I couldn't have stayed there alone. Finally, one of my friends agreed. We both are still very grateful to her for that. My dad too rescheduled his meetings so that he could be in Delhi while we were there and I could stay with him. I got tremendous support from him!

We parted again. . . for the second time and this time I was more unsure of when I'd see him next and more in love with him too! We didn't make any promises even though I wanted some kind of commitment from him. And I was only glad that we left it that way.

We said that we'd leave everything this way until one of us felt the need of re-evaluating our relationship! But we decided to meet somewhere again in the coming June. Life went on and I went to New York for further studies. . . and in a month's time he indirectly proposed to me. . . for marriage that is. I was only very happy. But something happened and he said he had made a mistake. . . well, I went through the worst phase then! But thankfully it didn't go on for long. . . though it seemed like ages to me!

He called on October 15, 2004 and proposed marriage again, but this time in the real way! I took a long time to decide, though. I must have put him through a lot of hell then, I know. But this time round I didn't want to go through the same pain I had experienced earlier!

Well, luckily for us everything worked out really fast and well. His folks were in India and so came down to Mumbai to meet my parents and we were engaged while I was in NYC, he in New Guinea and our parents in Mumbai! We hadn't met each other after Delhi. There was a lot of anxiety and a lot of pain and didn't know whether to feel good that I had a boyfriend or not! Was he my boyfriend??? Well, we were romantically involved. But then we were away! Thoughts like these and more were constantly spinning in my mind!

I flew over to New Guinea to meet him and that was the third time we met but didn't feel like that! We were very comfortable with each other. Spent three weeks with him! And it was fabulous! Just amazing! The feeling to be with him and the place both!

Now, we are just waiting to tie up all those loose ends before we start our life together! And I know this wait is going to be worth it! It certainly is the most beautiful thing that happened to us!