How A Man's Relationship With His Mother Can Affect Your Romantic Relationship: Signs To Lookout For

Friday, February 17, 2023, 20:37

A mother is the first person a man connects to (in most cases) and that forms the base of all the relationships he pursues in his life. Not only a mother can influence a child to shape his values, beliefs and behaviours, but their presence can have a great impact on their personality too.

A study published in the Journal of Youth And Adolescence, to examine relations among maternal regulatory support, maternal antagonism, and mother-son relationship quality in relation to boys' self-regulation during early adolescence revealed 'that parenting and the context of the parent-child relationship are linked to self-regulation during early adolescence; however, it appears that parental antagonism and relationship quality, not maternal regulatory supportive parenting, contribute to rank-order change in self-regulation abilities. Implications of these results for research and practice are discussed.'

Now, when a man goes for adult relationships, be it men or women, his relationship with his mother can create stark differences in his romantic life. So, if you really want to know the person you are dating, you need to understand the kind of relationship that person has with his mom. Not only it will give you a peek-a-boo about his personality, but it will also speak volumes about how he will be handling his romantic relationships.

Insights from mom and son relationship dynamics that may affect your romantic relationship. Here are the signs you need to look for while dating.

1. He doesn't Have A Say In His Life, His mother dominates It

Doesn't matter what his age is, without his mother's approval, nothing happens in his life. From food, and clothes, to friends and life partners- everything requires a nod from the mother.

Well, it is possible that when this man is in a romantic relationship, he will listen to everything you say and do everything you want. He will be a genuine person and the kindest soul you will ever meet. He may even spoil you because he values women in his life but there is a red flag too that you can't miss. Issues will become prominent when there is only one queen and that will never be you, it will always be his mother.

This means all the major decisions of life will be taken by her and not by you or your partner as a couple. It will be like an unseen force in your life that you can never get rid of. So, it is best to close this chapter when it comes to relationships because you want a partner, not a loyal puppy who does exactly what his mom says always.

2. He Doesn't Like Mother's Presence In His Life

Relationships are never black and white and therefore, a man avoiding his mother's presence in his life doesn't mean that he cannot be a good partner. It is possible that being with his mom or in her company creates anxiety and stresses him out. Also, there can be an unsolved problem that no one wants to talk about and upset each other.

It is possible that he is a nice man and yet when it comes to socializing or engaging in community services, he doesn't engage too deeply in them. He can be a person who is extremely committed but at the same time whenever there is a difficult situation, he can be passive-aggressive. So, be it conversations or fights, everything is going to be complicated. If you are a very private person, then this is your guy, but if you are too social, then it is better to part ways because your relationship can never thrive being with this man.

3. He Avoids His Mother Completely

This guy can be like a scorpion, he can sting occasionally, so you really need to watch out for this one. A man avoiding his mother can mean a lot of things. It is possible that he comes from a dysfunctional family and has a tumultuous relationship with his mother or he is a broken boy and needs external factors to fix him and that will involve being in a relationship as well. He may be seen complaining about his bad childhood or how bad is his mother in order to gain sympathy.

He will never forget the fights or quarrels and can hold a grudge. His temper can be tough to deal with no matter how charming they are. He only loves a woman when they are behaving according to his whims and fancies. The fact that a woman can have control over him can bother him too much.

4. He Considers His Mother His Best Friend

This man considers his mother as his best buddy and yet when there are issues he is not afraid to point them out. There you go, you may have a confident partner in your life who is neither stimulated nor threatened by the presence of women in their life. He is not someone who blindly trusts his mother when it comes to making major life-changing decisions.

He is a guy who enjoys a romantic relationship and all the thrills that comes with it. This guy can be too social which a partner who is extremely introverted may not like, especially if he engages with lots of female friends. He is direct and can be commitment-phobic. If you are the one looking for too many answers, quite a validation for your relationship and a bit passive-aggressive then this man is not for you.

5. He Is Scared To Disappoint His Mother

This guy is not the one who has a mother to dictate his life for him, rather, he may have an intense fear that he may disappoint his mother with his actions even though reality can be entirely different. He is a man who needs the constant approval of his mother in every sphere of his life. But, that doesn't mean he doesn't engage in things that he likes, this guy finds a way to do it without the knowledge of his mother when he smells objection.

He can be creative and willing to take risks. So, if you want to really become a part of his life, then you need to engage in his escapades. However, he may get bored too quickly and demand a change. You can also see him agreeing to something you like but ultimately doing the thing they wanted to do in the first place. This can be annoying for a person who likes honesty in a relationship.

6. He Is too Dependent On His Mother For Everything

This guy will be someone who is too dependent on his mother for everything and decision-making is not one of the skills that he possesses. His mother is so involved in his life that probably she knows more about your relationship than you or your partner does.

He can be this man who respects women, understands the perspective of others and is committed too, but when it comes to calling the shots, he will step back. He can be extremely friendly and even help everyone around him whenever need be, but the same guy will also talk behind a person's back instead of confronting someone. He may also feel that he needs to be more responsible and at the same time he can complain about his responsibilities. So, a woman or man who is a good decision-maker can be the ideal partner for them.