Do You Take Relationship Advice Seriously?

By Sheetal Tewari

A friend of mine still wonders if he can undo what he did in the past and lostthe love of his loving and faithful wife. He regrets why he took all those relationship advice seriously and didn't use his mind and let hiswife go? But, there is nothing in his hands anymore. You might have seen many of your friends dealing with relationship issues.

Some of them are able to solve their problems and some fall prey to awful relationship advice given by friends and family, who in general have a biased approach towards them.

Do You Take Relationship Advice Seriously?

Who do you approach when you face relationship issues? Do you seek advice from a reliable family member, friend or a relationship counsellor and take their advice seriously without a second thought? If so, you might be putting your personal life at risk!

Let's have a look on the points you should consider before following any relationship advice seriously:

Seek advice from the right person
The person you are taking advice from should be a neutral person who can see things as an outsider. If a friend tells you, "you are right," "I always knew it was a mismatch," then you must think again. Their advice may be influenced from their own experiences.

Is it a one sided advice?
A good friend or a relative always wants best for you but they are never same for your partner. Any advice should not be one sided. You may get the best advice from the person who knows both of you very well. His or her advice would be best as their will not be any favoritism from his side.

Which advice should be taken seriously?
While giving advice, many of your friends must have justified your emotions and actions. But the biggest step is to agreeing to what they have told you. Make sure you are not satisfying your urge to "look like Mr or Mrs Right" at the risk of your personal life. And if you have any doubt, take a second opinion from a counselor.

Be open for a discussion
If you really want to discuss and solve the problem, take your better half along when you are going to a counselor or friend for advice. For an issue to be solved, you have to be open for the discussion. Don't make your partner ‘the villain' of the story. If you love your partner and want to stay together, discuss and solve the problem.

A big ‘NO' for abuse
Yes, when you are facing physical or verbal abuse continuously, then there is no need to look for any second advice. Any good friend would never suggest a friend to wait and bear any abuse. It is always good to stay away from any abusive person whether he is your husband or boyfriend.

Story first published: Monday, August 19, 2013, 10:16 [IST]
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