Common Fears Of Single Parents Dating

By Madhu Babu

If you are a single parent raising one more child on your own, you would most probably be out of touch with dating and will have lots of second thoughts in deciding whether to date again.

The decision is a tough one to make due changed dynamics of your life compared to earlier time when you used to date.

There are common fears that every single parent experiences while getting back to dating again.

Common Fears Of Single Parents Dating

Once you have children, the whole world changes and it is never the same again. As a single parent you have to fight the common fears most single parents go through.

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You will have to fight the bull by its horns and think positively to improve your life and lifestyle. Though having children does complicate the equations of dating, it is never end of the world by any means.

To get past the common fears of dating as a single parent you have change your mindset to start with.

The most common fear is regarding acceptance by your kids. Their reactions and the way they take your call to date is the most common fear faced by most single parents while deciding to date again.

It would have been a long time for most single parents getting back on dating stage, which makes them anxious and nervous with lots of uncertainities.

Fear of acceptance by their new partner is another common fear faced by single parents. Then there is fear of guilt if you lost a loved partner.

Kids
Once you have kids, your world would be centred around them and you would be putting their needs before yours while making any major decisions or changes that affect you all. Hence it is no different when it comes to dating again. Any single parent will have varied degree of fear when it comes to how their kids would react to your dating idea.

Your partner and kids
When you do get your kid onboard to your dating idea, there is no guarantee how they would accept your new partner. As it is they would be devastated by your separation or loss of partner who would be their birth parent. Hence, the common fear of your kids acceptance to your partner is nothing out of order.

Fear of dedicating enough time
Since becoming a single parent, you would be busy juggling work and life with kid. In such circumstances, there you it is a common fear to date someone to whom you may not be able to dedicate fair enough time. This is true as single parent, as you will be bearing the financial burden solely in the family.

Fear of priorities
No matter how far you get into dating someone new, your priorities would more often be your kid. Making a choice at times to choose No matter how far you get into dating someone new, your priorities would more often be your kid. Making a choice at times to choose our kid or the new partner will be daunting task. Unless your partner is understanding enough, there is no guarantee as to how things end up when it gets to that point.

Fear of things going wrong
If you fall under the category of single parent who had a rough relationship with previous partner, there are chances you would be scarred for life or so deeply bed, you would find it very hard to get past the fear of going through similar horror all over again. Lot of single parents seek professional help like counselling in order to move forward from the sour relationship.

Story first published: Friday, December 20, 2013, 15:34 [IST]
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