Who decides your children's future?

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Everything is pre-planned in modern families. You will have a definite on look about what to do in the next moment to what has to happen after many years. In this situation, it is only natural that you have planned almost everything for your children's future from their education, social status, friends, career, marriage and their own families. However wait and ponder over some ideas to know where you must stop planning your children's future.

Many parents are scared about their children's future when their children do not get admission in desired educational institutions or later because of their children's unaccomplishment in exams or pre-planned courses.

Consider your educational qualifications, abilities and the background that you hailed from while you plan for your children's education. Even if you are coming from a poor family, studied in a common educational institution and took a general curriculum; you must have outshined many others. When your children reach a mature level of education better stop nagging them about their future studies. Instead encourage them to achieve their goals and dreams in the best manner.

Most parents have sleepless nights thinking of their children's friends circle. There is nothing wrong if you care for your children's relationships and guide them in wrong choices. However don't compel them to select friends of your choice. Some parents even consider that their children's company is below their status level. Your children's temperament and moods may be different from yours and they may find it difficult to cope with friends of your choice.

It is surprising that many parents decide their children's career even today. They may find it derogatory if their children choose a common man's career. It is an unhealthy situation that every parent must avoid. If your children have willingness to choose a career; that itself credit much to your efforts. Help them to select a career that suits their education and interests rather than your status. Always lend a supportive hand to them and make them realize that all the success in career depends upon initial struggles.

Majority of the parents still faces sheer dilemma when their children's marriage time arrives. Parents are in utter shock when their children reveal for the first time that they have already find their life partner or put out their conditions. Start to oppose your children only if you can convince them adverse effects of their choice. On the other hand if they are giving you the honour to select their partner, choose the best person for them rather than compelling them for the first proposal. Try to reason yourself that your children have grown up and now it is their time to plan. After all you made all planning in your life to make your children happy.

To conclude cite the proverb " Like father, like son." You cannot expect extraordinary things from your children that you haven't done in your life. Even if your children don't reach upto your level or one child goes back in the race than your other child; don't let them down. They must have inherent caliber that can come out through proper guidance and encouragement. Their failure will be a stepping-stone to success only with your support. Help your children to decide their future and to live a life of self-esteem.