Adoption - Think about it!

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Family Planning... do you even stop and consider how important it is, not just to you, as a plan for the future but to the larger impact on society and the economy, which impacts you in turn? This may sound silly but the need to plan your family is extremely important. India does not screw with free will (except once during the emergency!) and lets you make choices, so make a responsible one. Imagine what it would be like if we were compelled to have one child per married couple... that would be insane. Trying to contain procreation may seem like a crazy notion but a necessary one... in the case of China and its need to reach a self sustaining, efficient nation - which, they are fast becoming!

What makes India different...well lets see... we don't have the infrastructure, don't have the natural resources and we lack the money to sustain the population we have - Oh, I wouldn't keep harping on the fact that we have a large labour force - cling to that already!

When my sister had a baby and we were all fighting and yelling at each other at home about how to care for my little nephew and differences on silly things - like using a bottle, or placing a pillow in his crib, etc., we saw how loved this little being is. There were five people carrying him around, cooing at him, changing him - and then came the realization... how many children have never been kissed, hugged or smothered - only left in orphanages or abandoned and have never known love in any form? Little defenseless babies, depending on the kindness of strangers... and are meted out with cruelty or indifference.

Children! How do we perceive them? As an extension of yourself? Why can't we see our own children as individuals, people with their own thoughts and traits? Why are these common or congenital traits so important to us? Do we fear our mortality and unconsciously wish to leave a part of ourselves behind - in them? - So as long as our lineage isn't wiped out - we see a good chance we will live forever? People say that it's the reason we exist... what does that mean, if I don't have kids my life is purposeless. One could argue that the human instinct to procreate has been placed in a controlled environment (society) to ensure the survival of the species... and the sexual instinct is to ensure the longevity of our species.... Arguably so! But the amazing thing about us homo sapiens is the ability to override anything we want to and sometimes what we need to when necessity calls. We may never want to have children (or never want to have sex, well some of us) because as thinking human beings we can override anything through choice. Choice being the operative word - I think therefore I am??!!

Anyway, the point I'm trying to drive home is that with the population we have and our economic status - why don't all of us feel the need to adopt, why don't we take care of our own, not as a philanthropic gesture but as a new instinct we begin to follow - the instinct to care regardless of genetics, heredity or bloodlines. Can't we love a child as if he/she were our own, without differentiation, even in the mind?

The downside to all of this is that when we think we are saving the economy or children, we immediately lose the ability to love unconditionally. Maybe it's hard when they are our own, and maybe it is impossible... who knows, but some say we can choose our friends and not family... the bond may just be stronger. Don't just begin to think when infertility is the issue but think because you really, really want to, regardless - Think!