"This Mother’s Day Remember Our First Mother, Bharat Maa" : Exclusive Interview With Dr. Col. Gunjan Malhotra

Sunday, May 11, 2025, 5:50

This Mother's Day, with the country facing fresh tensions along the borders, the idea of motherhood takes on a deeper meaning. It's not just about nurturing families, but also about resilience, responsibility, and courage, the kind that holds communities together in difficult times.

That's what makes Dr. (Colonel) Gunjan Malhotra's story so compelling. Mrs India Subcontinent 2024 and former Senior Gynaecologist at Army Hospital (Research & Referral), Delhi, Dr Malhotra has worn many hats-military doctor, cancer survivor, mother, and advocate for women's health. Her journey speaks to the many quiet strengths that define motherhood today.

Facing Cancer During A Global Crisis

Reflecting on her battle with cancer, Dr. Malhotra shares, "Before cancer, I was a much more selfish person. After my diagnosis, everything changed. I fought cancer during the COVID-19 pandemic, and each day, as I saw people dying, I questioned whether I would be next. There were moments when I'd think I might not make it through. In those moments, I learned to appreciate life in a way I never had before. I woke up every morning, practiced yoga, and felt immense gratitude for simply being alive." She points out that this renewed appreciation for life made her more humble, saying, "Now, it's all about giving back to others, serving humanity, and doing good in the world."

Parenting Through Illness And Strength

Discussing her experience as a mother, Dr. Malhotra remarks, "Motherhood has taught me tolerance and patience in ways I never expected. My son was diagnosed with juvenile diabetes at the age of 10, and naturally, I feel anxious when he experiences a hypoglycemic episode. But my battle with cancer has given me the patience to deal with these challenges with more composure. I've learned to manage my problems and, as a result, better handle my son's struggles as well."

Patriotism, Parenthood And Purpose In Every Role

"24 hours is less for me. There are so many things that I want to do," Dr Malhotra states. "Once you've come close to death and made it out alive, you want to tick off everything on your bucket list. But in today's scenario, with war-like tensions at the border, the first mother we must remember is Bharat Maa. My heart goes out to all the soldiers fighting for us."

She reflects, "There's a line in Hindi that resonates deeply with me-'Main marte dum tak tujhse pyaar jataonga ay Bharat Maa, phir main teri miṭṭī mein mil jaonga' (Until my dying breath, I will express my love for you, O Mother India then I will merge with your soil). This is the love a soldier feels for Bharat Maa just like a son feels for his mother. And on this Mother's Day, every citizen should carry that patriotic streak."

The Lifestyle Shift Cancer Demands

Dr. Malhotra emphasizes, "Taking care of your lifestyle is crucial, especially when you've been through something as challenging as cancer." As a doctor, she encounters many patients who overlook the importance of self-care. "I see so many people neglect their health, and that's a big problem. We have to prioritise our health and wellbeing. That's the key to preventing diseases and living a long, fulfilling life."

She shares, "I created an acronym-SLQ, or Self Love Quotient. If your self-love quotient is low, it's difficult to take proper care of yourself-be it your body, mind, or soul." Reflecting on her post-cancer journey, Dr. Malhotra stresses, "My cancer journey taught me that regular health checks, a balanced diet, and staying active are non-negotiable. We often forget how much these things matter, but they add up."

She continues, "I also began volunteering at hospitals and working with marginalized women, helping those who have faced severe hardships. It's been deeply fulfilling. At the end of the day, I fall asleep with a sense of satisfaction that's hard to put into words."

Advice to Other Mothers On Cancer Prevention

Dr. Malhotra recalls her own hesitation when she first felt a lump in her breast, despite being a doctor herself. "Even though I knew better, I avoided seeking help for two weeks because I wasn't ready to accept that I might have cancer. I believe many mothers tend to shy away from getting checked, fearing the worst. But you must trust your instincts and go for regular check-ups."

She advises, "Take care of your health-exercise, eat right, and put yourself first. In many households, the mother is the last person to eat, after everyone else is fed. But that's not the way it should be. You need to ensure that you're healthy in body, mind, and soul in order to care for your family."

Staying Strong When Times Get Tough

Dr. Malhotra underscores the importance of maintaining mental resilience, especially during tough times. "Health challenges are inevitable. What matters is your mindset. Being in the army for 24 years, I've learned to keep a warrior mindset." She adds, "In any situation that seems overwhelming, stay calm, meditate, stay spiritual, and continue helping others. That's how you build a stronger version of yourself. Most mothers already have a strong mindset, but remember: you come first. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your family."

A Son's Quiet Strength

Dr. Malhotra's son has been a source of strength throughout her journey. She recalls, "At the age of 10, my son was diagnosed with insulin-dependent diabetes. Over time, it became a blessing in disguise. He grew stronger, more disciplined with his health, and even began cooking meals for me. I'm in awe of how he's supported me, especially during my cancer treatment. When I lost my hair, he took me to the bathroom, shaved my head, and told me to cry as much as I needed but to move on from it. He also encouraged me to pursue the Mrs India Subcontinent competition, pushing me to follow my dreams. I'm truly grateful for him."

A Health-Conscious Household

With her son managing diabetes, Dr. Malhotra notes, "He's very conscious of his health and diet. We often share tips, which I apply in my clinic as well. My mother, before she passed away, helped raise him, and the bond they shared was incredible. He still celebrates special moments with me-like taking me on a date on the 14th of February, the day before my birthday."

Living With Resilience And Gratitude

Dr. Malhotra believes in the power of destiny and divinity. She reflects, "When Rohan's blood sugar levels reached 500, I was managing 12 patients in the OT(Operation Theatre). I still don't know how I finished those surgeries and made it to him. Gratitude is key in everything. The challenges we face don't define us. There's always a bigger plan in motion."

She shares, "Years ago, I wanted to retire early from the army, but that didn't happen. Instead, I was posted to the Apex hospital in Delhi during my treatment, and that became an important part of my healing journey. So, always respect the divine plan. Appreciate those around you, whether they stay or leave."

Moments That Reshape You

Dr. Malhotra recalls, "One moment that deeply impacted me was when my son shaved off my hair. He used to practice yoga with me, but seeing him step up like an adult when I was vulnerable was transformative. Even now, when I have lymphedema and feel self-conscious, he checks on me to make sure I'm okay. After my treatment, I wasn't sure if I could return to work. But my family-my husband, son, and parents, pushed me forward. The challenges I've faced have shaped who I am today."

How Community And Boundaries Aid Recovery

Dr. Malhotra reflects, "During my cancer treatment, the isolation brought on by COVID was actually a blessing in disguise. It gave me the space to focus on my healing. When Rohan was diagnosed, people reached out, and I felt their concern. But I knew I had to keep negative energy at bay while I recovered. Cancer patients don't want sympathy-they need empathy. Once you accept your illness, your mind tunes itself to fight. Even when I broke my arm post-recovery, I reminded myself it could have been worse. So, maintain a positive circle and never stop working. Work is therapy. It kept me grounded and helped me not dwell on my illness."

A Final Note Of Responsibility

Dr. Malhotra concludes, "As mothers, we have a responsibility to protect not just our families, but our nation. On this Mother's Day, let's remember to stay informed, avoid panic, avoid spreading false news on social media and heed government advisories. Our country needs us to lead by example-let's embrace that responsibility."

A Thoughtful Reflection On Mother's Day

This is a moment to acknowledge the diverse strength that comes with motherhood. In the face of personal challenges, like health battles, or the ongoing responsibilities that extend to the community and nation, mothers exemplify a unique form of resilience. Today, we recognise not only the nurturing role mothers play at home, but also the broader influence they have in shaping society. On that note, here's wishing all mothers a very 'Happy Mother's Day'!