20 Things To Do Before You Get Married

By Padmapreetham Mahalingam

Getting hitched is the most beautiful part in everybody’s life. It is about two people taking their vows to spend the rest of their lives together, be it happiness or unhappiness. Before plunging into this institution called marriage, there are various things couples need to know about. Marriage doesn’t come easy. It is not about inviting people for the wedding, buying a trousseau and saying ‘I do’.

There are a few important things that every man and woman should do before getting married. Despite all the hype and hoopla that surrounds marriage, most of us disregard all the crazy things one needs to do for oneself before marriage.

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Many newly engaged couples have to think about things that they need to do before marriage. For every successful marriage, there should be two people who must have done some incredibly happy and smart things individually before they take the next step. Check out the 20 things every man and woman should do before marriage or before putting the ring on the finger.

Travel with your friends

Travel with your friends

It may sound like a crazy thing to do before marriage but it is energising and liberating. It is not that you can't do this after marriage. But it is nice to spend some special moments with your friends as it gives the bond a bolstering when you do it before getting married.

Talk about children

Talk about children

It is definitely horrific to marry someone who is not thinking in a similar way about having children after marriage. It is better to keep the communication open about whether to have children or not in future.

Discuss about religion

Discuss about religion

It is never a crazy thing to do before marriage when it comes to discussing about religion. Women need to know whether their fiancé shares the same kind of religious beliefs.

Finances

Finances

Money is always a difficult thing to discuss between couples. It can also become a reason for divorce if couples don't plan their finances. You can avoid these kinds of awkward situations by trying to do money-saving things before marriage.

Learn to DIY

Learn to DIY

Be smart and if want to make your marriage successful, try to take care of yourself. The important thing to do before marriage is to learn to cook or learn the skills needed to do different tasks around your house. It is always good to know that you can fend for yourself in the kitchen.

Live alone

Live alone

Living alone is definitely a huge responsibility and it is better to do it before you get married. You need to understand and see if you can handle living alone without stress and pressure.

Change your lifestyle

Change your lifestyle

The important thing to do before marriage is to clean up your act. Try to bring changes to your lifestyle by eating healthier food and working out regularly.

Spend some time on your career

Spend some time on your career

It is better to give some focus on your career. Spend some time on your career before you fully plunge into your relationship.

Getting to know his or her family

Getting to know his or her family

You are definitely not marrying the spouse but you are marrying his entire family. Even though you may be getting married to one person, yet his or her family is also going to be part of your life.

Meet his or her friends

Meet his or her friends

Meeting his or her friends can help you to take the right decision whether he or she is right for you in the first place. By doing this, you can pick the red flags and take a decision of not marrying this person if you don't like his or her circle of friends.

Splurge on yourself

Splurge on yourself

The important thing to do before marriage is to splurge on yourself. You should and don't feel guilty about it.

Complete school

Complete school

If you are doing a course, try to own up a certificate in the specialised skill. School can give you the edge to finance the future.

Forgot about your past relationships

Forgot about your past relationships

Never let your bitter past linger in your mind. Don't let an old flame capture the space in your heart. Try to end those thoughts if you want to focus on your marriage.

Live with your partner

Live with your partner

This may not to be a good idea for people who are not a fan of this one. Those who are from old school will not agree, yet it definitely gives you a trial run before getting hitched.

Counselling

Counselling

It is definitely one of the crazy things to do before marriage but there is nothing wrong for couples to go for premarital counselling. Counselling can help you to learn how to squash any big issues when you come across them.

Start a savings account

Start a savings account

Keep a watch on your savings. Try to make it a habit to save at least ten percent of your paycheck if you want to get married soon.

Reveal all the secrets

Reveal all the secrets

Be open about your secrets with your future spouse, whether you were in a relationship with someone or you were an alcoholic.

Plan your wedding

Plan your wedding

The things that you need to do before marriage is to make a decision about how your wedding should be, whether it is going to be a big affair or an intimate gathering.

Talk about your future

Talk about your future

Both of you need to discuss about your dreams and goals for your future. Make sure to follow a goal that you both can agree upon.

Learn to apologise sincerely

Learn to apologise sincerely

An important thing to do before marriage is to learn to apologise sincerely. When you have an argument, try to admit when you are wrong as this will show your partner that you are mature and willing to see the other's point of view.


Story first published: Wednesday, May 21, 2014, 18:26 [IST]
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