Is He Suffering From His Childhood Fears?

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Monday, May 16, 2011, 18:08

Is He Suffering From His Childhood Fears?

Jacob suffers form Nyctophobia (fear of darkness). It is strange that a stout man like him startles for a second when the light gets switched at the tick of night. When asked the reason for all that goose bumps, he said, "why can't men fear?" True. Men do fear. It's a natural emotion like others such as love, happiness, anger, hurt and sadness. However women may not understand this fear, as men are personified as strong, protective and fearless.

In many cases childhood fears are a normal part of growing up but may lead to number of major psychological problems. A recent study shows that a significant number of male children develop full blown anxiety disorders over some common fears. It may relate to anything simple to deadly, like fire, thunder, snakes or spiders.

Causes:

Here are few instances, which may be the cause of man's fears.

Let us consider a simple situation; a child falls into a well and struggles to get out. This child has met death. So, he may develop fear of either enclosed spaces or of water. The fear may even resent him to take part in any water games.

Another instance is the sexual assault. Men who are sexually assaulted by the same sex or by women in childhood may develop a fear of commitment and even step back from any sexual practice.

Men locked up in the dark room and beaten ruthlessly as a sort of punishment during tender age, may fear dark closets or even sleep with the lights on when alone. An accident on the road may cause the fear of blood and death in his every move

No matter how it occurs, whether by external events or internal predisposition these childhood incidents leave a lasting effect on the man's mind. It has to be healed lest he will live with that fear every second of his life.

How to deal with fear?

The process of overcoming fear is simply an elegant shift from a state of fear to the state of oneness. The first step to deal with fear would be to know your deepest fear. Men although they are scared of certain things deny accepting it as they think fear is not synonymous to masculine. Accept your fear as natural and just another emotion. Note down all your fears on a sheet of paper. Think of everything you must or can't do about it. Which people, places, activities, situations, character traits etc. are you afraid of?

After the list is done then get to know the source of all this fear. Step in to the fears with courage. For instance if you are scared of heights go for bungy jumping. Make up your mind that the fears are real and can be tackled. It is better to get rid of it than live with it. So explore yourself, talk it out with someone with whom you can share your deepest feelings. Stop the negative flow in your mind. Think positive win it over since nothing is impossible.

To end with Frank Herbert's quote, "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."-

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