Control your anger before it starts gripping you

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We must not say 'He never gets angry'. Rather we should say 'He cannot survive without being angry'. People lose their temper every now and then. ...Sometimes for valid reasons and sometimes without any reason. The only thing that can be said is that people now have become so busy and at the end of the day they lose the power to bear the adverse things that is happening against their wish. Thus it is very much distinct that the complications in the present world are the main cause behind anger and frustration in people.

But the emotion of anger has even been more crucially and distinctly noticed among teenagers and adolescents of todays' generation world. On the contrary, they should have more patience and power to think rationally before the outbursts. This is perhaps because the teenagers today have to withstand great pressure and stress due to high competition and expectation regarding their education and future career prospects from their parents and teachers. These worries might come out in the form of anger.

As everybody have their own reasons to get upset, it is getting more and more difficult for people to control stress and anger. Anger can have no particular reason to erupt. It is the mood that makes you angry and the situation and the condition that you might be passing through. Anger is the root cause of destruction for any individual. But it is still not possible for anyone to get completely rid of this emotional outburst, as it is unavoidable. Thus it can only be reduced to a certain extent by changing the mood that causes it. Thus, anger should be controlled as soon as possible before it starts controlling the individual.

Reality behind anger

The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary for our survival.

On the other hand, we can't physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us. Laws, social norms and common sense place limits on how far our anger can take us.

People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive and not aggressive manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to meet, without hurting others. Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.

Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward-on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.

Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting down others, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to have many successful relationships.