Intrusive Thoughts Don’t Define You: Why Your Mind Lies to You Sometimes

Intrusive thoughts are more common than people admit.
They often appear suddenly. A thought feels odd, disturbing, or unnecessary. It does not match the person's thinking. Most people are caught off guard and unsure what to do with it once it appears.

The problem usually begins when the thought is taken too seriously. We spoke to Shyam Gupta, OCD Expert, Emotion of Life, who explained the occurrence of intrusive thoughts and how to deal with them.

Why We Give Random Thoughts Too Much Meaning

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"There is a common belief that every thought must mean something. That if the mind produces an idea, it must be connected to intention or character. Because of this, a random thought is examined instead of ignored. It is questioned, replayed, and given weight it does not deserve," explained Gupta.

The Mind Is Not as Selective as We Think

Mental health experts see this misunderstanding often. The mind is assumed to be logical and selective. In reality, it reacts to stress, tiredness, unfinished conversations, and emotional pressure without any discernible order. It does not filter ideas based on values or intentions.

"Most people don't suffer because of their thoughts. They suffer because they believe every thought deserves attention," added Gupta.

Why Certain Thoughts Feel Louder

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When mental space feels crowded, unusual thoughts surface. This does not make them important. It only makes them noticeable.

"What keeps intrusive thoughts active is attention. The moment a thought feels uncomfortable, it receives extra focus. It is replayed and judged. The brain reacts to that focus and treats the thought as something that matters, even when it does not. Over time, the thought feels heavier than it really is," said Gupta.

Why Fighting Thoughts Often Backfires

Trying to force a thought away often fails. Overthinking it usually makes it worse. Control is rarely helpful in these situations.

Distance works better.

"Allowing a thought to pass without reacting reduces its impact. Not everything that appears in the mind needs a response. Many thoughts fade on their own when they are not analysed or given importance," added Gupta.

What Helps Create Mental Ease

The focus is on understanding emotional patterns rather than managing every mental moment. A calm mind is not required to function well. What matters more is recognising when a thought does not deserve attention.

When to Seek Support

Gupta concluded, "There are times when intrusive thoughts become persistent or distressing. In such cases, professional support is important. But for many people, reassurance is enough. Thoughts come and go, while character does not. Sometimes the mind produces unreliable information. Knowing when to disregard it is part of emotional balance."

Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is for general informational and educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or a qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.